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This diary-like account of the changing relationships between a devoted daughter and an aging mother underscores the role of love in guiding them from independent living through institutional care to a tranquil death.
Mother & Me tells the joyful and bittersweet moments of an adult daughter parenting her aging mother. It will warm your heart and expand your insight.
Virginia Pounds Brown’s softly caring words could have been my voice as she described so beautifully the special relationship she had with her mother. I was carried back to my own mother’s time in a nursing home. Led by Pound Brown’s remarkable and gently humorous descriptions, I re-experienced the hunt for lost clothes, holiday meals in the public dining room, rides for ice cream and the great need to be a child again. A charming and loving work and a must read for daughters.
Mother & Me enlightens and inspires by immersing us in the seething and loving,laughing and crying, ecstasy and anguish of walking life's final walk with a loved one. Its unpretentious telling convinces us that we, too, can walk beside parents who totter on the brink of independence and dependence, understanding and confusion, life and death ... and its intimate authenticity confirms that to do so is to offer both our elders and ourselves a priceless gift!
What is about Southern women? The Scarlett O’Hara stubborness, resilience and strength are just part of our genes, and we wear these qualities like medals as we grow older. Virginia Pounds Brown has written a poignant memoir chronicling the last years of her own “ninety-seven pound mountain ... called Mother.” In this disposable fast paced culture, we take little time to record and reflect on the relationships and the upbringing that make each of us who we are. You can’t read this book without stopping to do just that-to revel in the treasure of the unique mother daughter bond and to appreciate the depth of emotion accompanying the letting go of life in the here and now. We never stop missing our mothers. From the time the roles reverse and the daughter becomes the parent, there are precious tender—but very painful encounters. Daughters almost need to given themselves permission to accept the reality, to grieve, but to cherish the gift of each day together. Ms. Pounds Brown’s words will encourage other daughters to practice the gentle art of parenting without ever demeaning the honor and dignity of “Mother.”
Virginia Pounds Brown, like a gracious hostess, invites us into the warm moments of her mother's last years. This is a chronicle of struggle and joy. It is a story of hope and love. We watch a daughter mature at her mother's side. Both women become more because of the enduring love of the other. The daughter asks, 'What do you think of life?' In the end, we hear the answer given through the song of the mockingbird. Where there is love, the song goes on and on.
I read the Virginia Pounds Brown Mother & Me, and found it fascinating in many ways. The specificity of it moves the reader into the relationship between this woman and her mother, which seems to open it to all of us. I began to think of my relationship to my mother, and to every loved old person who is slowly failing, is dependent and hates dependency, is angry and hates the anger, and who—even in the best of all possible care situations—continues to be lovingly and annoyingly human. This book is the perfect length.
Virginia Pounds Brown’s ‘little’ book Mother and Me is large in love and courage. Beneath the almost off-hand telling of her mother’s last years lies the reality of what it means to grow old. In spite of Dylan Thomas’s admonition to ‘not go gentle’ Virginia Brown, with the loving heart of a loving, compassionate daughter, certainly guided her mother gently into “that good night” ... I, whose own mother died suddenly and unexpectedly envy Virginia’s good fortune for being to scout that fearful journey with her mother, and tell the rest of us what the territory is like. Mother and Me is well told, moving and funny; I found myself laughing just after wiping away a tear. This is a book for daughters who not only love their mothers, but have, in a sense, become them.